His wife divorced him after a short time for the same reason. Sure doesn't sound like he has any hope of changing or any desire to change. It seems he is happy with himself. Sure, masturbating EVERY night will affect his performance. He will not have the sexual desire/libido to want to sexually love you.

You "enjoy" him, but I didn't see the word love any place in your post.

Ann, in my opinion don't waste any more of your precious time/life with him. End the relationship in a pleasant manner, but be firm and say "this is it. PERIOD!" and mean it. Look for someone that is a male and enjoys the company, pleasure and love from a woman. Someone you can develop of loving relaionship with. A fellow who will love you and that you love in return. I wish you the very best.

Lovin' (sex) is not the only thing in a relationship, however, it is a very big and important part of a relationship in my opinion. Humans DO need to give and receive love, that is just our nature. And one of the important ways is through our intimte giving and receiving of sexual pleasure. It does make a difference in the rest of the day so to speak. I can tell it in my wife. Everything can be fine before our lovin', but after we have truly "felt" the love from each other there is that smile on her face, that closeness that wasn't quite there before our lovin'.

Ann, I believe you have made the right decision. I know you have. As difficult as it may seem/be you need to to let go and find someone who you can fall in love with and who loves you, AND most importantly will intimately give his love to you in a way that you can just "feel" it. And likewise you for him.

I wish you the very best. Now go forward with your life. Llfe is short, every day must be enjoyed to its fullest.